Some words about the parents-child relationship

Sometimes I read in blogs complains about the bad relationship with parents. Sometimes my friends make a comment how their elderly parents drive them crazy. I have to admit that these statements drive me crazy. My answer always is: Just try to imagine the situation when you can talk to them only at a graveyard.
Maybe it is a bit rough but it is going to happen anyway. One day everyone will find out that they just can't phone them. Worse, they will never phone you. Only at this moment you realize all the narrow-minded, stupid fights that maybe were driving you mad for a while but for them all those quarrels were sad events in their last years or months of their lives.
I do know how hard it can be to get along with parents but I always do know the emptiness without them. Suddenly you find out how many things shoud have been said, some were details, some other were important, like “Thank you for being my parents, for bringing me up, for all the things you have made for me.” When the time is over for both you and them you will be never able to complete that gap and only regret will remain. Then you may realize how silly you were. They were the closest people you have ever had and even your husband and kids will never make up for them.
I believe in some justice – when you get older your kids will treat you the same way you have treated your parents. In other words, you can expect the same relationship with your kids as you have with your parents.
The following post is just an example, the address is not necessary.

“I have a hard time with loving my parents, and lately I realize I have a hard time receiving their love. I hate it when they do something that really, really annoys me, but that I recognize is a way they are demonstrating love to me, in the way that they know how. And my challenge at that point is to receive it graciously and patiently. But man...it is so hard.
The worst thing about the situation with my parents is that I recognize it, but I don't feel a desire to work on our relationship. I have a desire to have a desire. But the desire itself is not in my heart. I find myself distancing myself from them and hardening my heart against them.”